flower girl

  • Including Children in Your Wedding Plans

    Izzie, Jac & Dan’s daughter and flower girl

    Children can be a wonderful addition to any wedding party. Flower girls and ring bearers are the traditional roles help by children in a wedding but youngsters can fill a number of other roles in the wedding. The inclusion of children in a wedding can certainly add a great deal of delight to the wedding but it is important to remember it can also add a great deal of uncertainty to the wedding as well. Older children can usually be counted on to perform tasks but there is no such guarantee with younger children. With that understanding couples who opt to include children in their weddings should make this decision with the understanding that there may be some surprises along the way and these surprises may not be pleasant. As long as the couple has a good attitude about having children in the wedding they will not allow these minor bumps in the road to become major problems that destroy the wedding. This article will discuss strategies for having the best possible results when including children in the wedding.

    First and foremost couples who decide to include children in their wedding day festivities should always have a Plan B. This is especially true when the children involved are very young because young children cannot always be counted on to do what is expected of them. They may have not slept well the night before, they may be hungry, they may get stage fright or they may fall and skin their knee right before they walk down the aisle and any one of these events can cause a meltdown of epic proportions. The best way to deal with these uncertainties is to have the childís mother or father standing by to assist. It is also important to be willing omit the childís part in the wedding at the last minute if it looks as though he or she is not going to cooperate happily in the wedding procession.

    It is also important to practice with the child beforehand instead of expecting the little one to know exactly what to do with just a few verbal instructions right before the start of the wedding. Practice will fully prepare the child for the dayís events and will give him or her a better understanding of the expectations for the day of the wedding. However, it is very important to remember there is such a thing as too much practice. There may be temptation to have the child repeat the action over and over again until it is perfect but this plan can backfire. Most children, especially young children, can get bored very easily. They are much more likely to perform their tasks during the wedding if it still novel to them. It is also very important to keep practice session short and fun. If practicing for the wedding is not fun for the child there is very little chance they will do what is expected of them on the day of the wedding.

    Another good idea for couples who wish to include children in the wedding is to have a friend or family member who is responsible for entertaining the children who will be participating in the wedding ceremony. This will not only help to keep the children entertained and happy while they wait for their turn but it will eliminate the stress of worrying about the children from the bride and the groom. The person responsible for caring for and entertaining the children may be a parent of one or more of the children or a friend or relative who has experience caring for young children.

    Finally, any wedding which includes children should be sure to have video cameras rolling at all times. The couple will undoubtedly already have a video camera operator on hand to capture the details of the wedding ceremony and reception but they should also be instructed to be aware of the children in the wedding party. An experienced wedding video camera operator will be skilled at capturing the children at their best which is also when they are most likely to say or do things which will be cherished memories for the couple.

  • Having a Flower Girl at Your Wedding?

    Weddings are all about spending time with the people we love, which is why careful planning and a strategic timetable are crucial for a well-executed day. And a big part of that day is different traditions, one of which is the most adorable member of the squad – the flower girl. But like with most things that are wedding-related, there is a lot more to it than meets the eye. So to make sure you are all prepared for those steps down the aisle, here’s what it takes to have a happy and successful flower girl.

    Make sure it’s something she wants

    Sure, you know your niece is going to look absolutely adorable walking down the aisle, throwing about petals and smiling into the camera – but does she want to do that? If this is a child you are close with, you should be able to estimate whether or not they are up to the task. If they don’t usually like being the center of attention and having all eyes on them, don’t put them on the spot. If you, however, aren’t that close to them, you should ask their parents and let them decide. Finally, you need to ask her. If she isn’t sure, or flat out says she doesn’t want to do it, there is no point in forcing it upon her – just let her enjoy the wedding as a guest.

    Explain the duties

    Once you have a willing flower girl, it’s time to explain to her exactly what her duties are. If you think carrying a basket and evenly spreading out petals is a bit too complex of a task, there are plenty of alternatives. She can simply walk down the aisle with a small bouquet or pomander, carry a sign that says “the bride is coming”, or blow bubbles. If you are going with the traditional basket, you can fill it with candies or confetti. Meet up with the flower girl a few times before the ceremony to practice walking, throwing and anything else you’ve planned, and try to set up one rehearsal at the actual venue. If you see that she is struggling with some part of her duties, alter them so that she is comfortable in her role.

    Get the perfect look

    You will definitely not be able to hold back your “awwwwws” while looking through beautiful flower girl dresses. They are all the most adorable things you will ever see and it will be hard to pick a favorite. But this is why you have these things to consider: The girl’s parents should be present when you are choosing the dress, or you should consult them before choosing to make sure that they agree that the dress is appropriate. Secondly, you have to make sure that it is the right size and perfectly comfortable for the flower girl. She will be wearing it the whole day, and any itchiness or tightness will not be tolerated. Next, you want to consider the theme of your wedding. If you have a beach wedding, you don’t want her in a puffy ballgown. Lastly, of course, the flower girl herself needs to like the dress, or she won’t want to wear it. When constructing the look, also consider things like shoes, tights, headpieces, as well as hair and makeup.

    Include her family

    Your biggest allies in this endeavor are the girl’s parents and close family. You want to make sure that they are sitting near the front row during the ceremony, so she knows that she should walk towards them. During the entire process of preparation, they should be present to make sure she feels comfortable. Ideally, one of the bridesmaids (or the bride herself) is the girl’s sister or mother, so that she can attend all of the activities – from hair and makeup to bridal brunch – together with the group. Kids are great, but they are also unpredictable, so having their parent close by will allow for swift problem-solving in case of an emergency.
    Having a flower girl is an amazing addition to a ceremony, but you have to keep in mind that they are still young, and that you shouldn’t expect too much. They will do their best, but if you expect perfection on every step, nobody is going to have a good time. So just let her do her magic and congratulate her as soon as you get the chance.

    Flower girl walking down the aisle