wedding toasts

  • How To Give The Perfect Best Man Speech

    Groom and best man drinking and smiling during wedding party. Groom and groomsmen partying after wedding.

    So you’re going to a wedding and you have to make a speech, but you sure as hell know that you don’t want it to be a boring old speech like you know every one else’s is going to be like. You want people to remember your speech and rightly so.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re the father of the bride, the best man or just a friend wishing the lucky couple well, making a memorable speech and making people laugh will add something to their wedding day.

    Funny and vulgar are two different things. A lot of people, especially men tend to think that to be funny you have to be vulgar and rude and embarrass the newly weds, this is not true.

    My brother recently had the honor of being best man at his best friends wedding and the night before the big day, I think he was more nervous then the groom. My brother has always been an out going guy, but when it came to making a best man speech, he just couldn’t think of what he wanted to say and he was nervous as heck having to stand up in front of all those guests and give a heart felt speech.

    It’s been said that people fear public speaking more then any other one thing in life. In this article I’m going to give you a few tips I passed on to my brother that you can take and turn your speech into something memorable. With these tips, I assure you, you won’t embarrass yourself in front of the whole wedding party.

    Tip 1: Stand up while speaking
    Always, always stand up when giving a best man speech or a toast. Make sure you have the gatherings attention first before you speak, and the best way to do that is to stand up and wait for quiet. Standing up is the first rule of any good public speaking and a wedding is no different.

    Tip 2: Plan what you want to say
    Never try and wing the speech. Giving a best man speech needs to be planned and written down well in advance. My brother started working on giving his best man speech weeks in advance. Unless you are a really confident public speaker, this is the best way to make sure you say everything you wanted to say.

    Tip 3: Practice makes perfect!
    Practice your speech until you know it off by heart. There is nothing worse then giving a best man speech and having to look down at your notes constantly. Fidgeting with paper is a big no no.

    Tip 4: Keep it clean
    If you and the best man have known each other for a while and you’ve had some wild times together, this is not the time to air his dirty laundry. People think that giving a best man speech gives them the right to embarrass the groom and upset the bride, this is not the case. Don’t mention the trip to the strip joint or anything of that sort.

    Tip 5: Keep it short
    No one wants to be bored for hours with your speech. Make it short and to the point and don’t forget to add emotion when giving your best man speech. The wedding isn’t about you, it’s about the bride and groom, don’t forget that.

    I hope these tips have given you some pointers on what to do when giving your best man speech. Good luck!

  • How to Give Wedding Toasts

    What would a wedding reception be without the traditional wedding toast? Itís like having a wedding cake without the icing. The wedding toast is a profoundly moving gesture, as it conveys to the bride and groom the heartfelt wishes of everyone who attended the wedding.

    Sequence of the Toasts

    The wedding toast is usually given first by the best man, then the father, the groom and the bride, and then followed by those who would like to give a toast. Versions may vary, however.

    Other traditional sequences of wedding toasts also follow the best man as the first one to give the toast, followed by the groom who says a few words to his bride, parents, family, and members of the wedding party. After which, the groom is then followed by other people such as family members or friends who also want to give a toast, and then lastly, the father of the bride who thanks everyone for attending the wedding.

    On the other hand, a nontraditional manner of the sequence of wedding toasts starts off with the emcee toasting the bride and groom. This is followed by the groom saying a few words to the guests and his bride, followed by the bride giving a little speech to her parents and in-laws, and finally, the father of the bride thanking everyone who shared this special day with them.

    The Actual Toast

    Ever since a monk named Dom Perignon invented champagne, it has since become the number one drink during wedding toasts. So before performing the wedding toast, make sure that your own glass as well as the glasses of other people (most especially the bride and groomís) are also filled with drink.

    Stand next to the bride and groom when giving your toast, and using a spoon, tap your own glass in order to get peopleís attention. Raise your glass using your right hand held straight from your shoulder, and then you can begin the wedding toast.

    Wedding Toast Tips

    Preparing the Speech: Practice!
    Giving a wedding toast, albeit a short one, in front of so many people can be quite a nerve-wracking experience. However, it doesnít really have to be, not as long as you come prepared. Write your speech down so you would know exactly what to say. Let it come straight from your heart, so that you would be able to convey the sentiments you want to impart to the couple you are toasting. You can also try showing it to someone for comment so that you can get feedback in improving on your speech. Remember to keep on practicing until you feel confident and comfortable enough to deliver it in front of a crowd.

    K.I.S.S.
    Keep your wedding toast brief and straight to the point, since you wouldnít want to divert attention away from the happy couple. Nobody wants to listen to an extremely long speech, so remember this wordóK.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Simple). A good measurement of a wedding toast is around 3 minutes.

    Giving the Speech
    In giving the wedding toast, speak loudly and clearly especially if you donít have a microphone, so that people would understand what youíre going to say. Talking loudly gives you a certain presence, and now that you have the audienceís undivided attention, itís important to hold it by not mumbling your words. So remember to talk slowly, because this is not a race to get you to finish your speech as fast as you can. Remember, people actually want to hear what you have to say.

    Make Eye Contact & Smile!
    Having your speech or cue cards printed out is indeed a great help in giving a wedding toast, but remember not to read it straight out from beginning to end. Make eye contact with the audience, so that they would feel that you really are speaking to them. Oh yeah, and donít forget the most important detail of all: Smile! This is a joyous event, and your smile should actually say so!